Deadly Mistake # 5: They Think That A Particular Position Is The Way To Please
Their Woman
If you open any mainstream men’s magazine on sale today you will often find a ton of (mostly lame) sex advice. The subject of new sexual positions is a
popular topic in a lot of this sex advice.
In fact, you hear about positions all the time. They have fancy names too. And they hold the promise of delivering great sex. But they rarely deliver.
The truth about sexual positions is that once you get past basic missionary position, her on top, doggy-style (and variations of those three) you start going down the route of things that are normally seen in the Karma Sutra.
And these positions are often a waste of time. They are so difficult to get into that they disrupt the flow of sex and your woman normally needs the flexibility of a gymnast to get into them. The outcome is usually still a lack of orgasms, but now she has back ache or knee ache or some other ache that she didn’t have before.
It’s be funny if it wasn’t so sad!
Now are you starting to see how most men get it so wrong and why so many women are confused by sex and have a low sex drive? (Note: I am not saying that these women are not sexual. I am saying that women will display a low sex drive if her partner keeps on giving her lousy sex. And she will start to think about new partners and possibly cheating on her man. Hardly her fault though, is it?)
Regarding what you should do "position wise", I’ll say this. Be a man, keep the sex interesting, make it different every time, talk dirty and make sure your woman is enjoying plenty of mind-blowing orgasms.
There’s nothing wrong with new positions per se, just don’t think of "positions" as being a cure for something else you are doing wrong that’s way more important (things such as maintaining poor sexual beliefs, not leading your woman, not talking dirty etc).
Just please observe this rule… unless your girl is a gymnast, leave the positions
That ties her up like a pretzel for the other guys. Let them make the mistake.
Deadly Mistake # 6: They Ask Their Woman IF She Had An Orgasm
When you ask your woman if she has had an orgasm you give her totally the wrong vibe. You show that you don’t understand her and can’t read her body.
A great lover can read his woman’s body like a road map.
Remember, a woman wants you to lead her. And she wants you to lead her to orgasms. You can’t do this for her unless you can tell whether she’s reaching the big "O" or not.
There are ways to tell whether or not your woman is climaxing OR if she’s faking it. It’s up to you to learn these skills and use them with your woman.
When you have to ask if she has had an orgasm, you start to lose some of the respect she has for you. And because respect, along with trust and honesty,
are the foundations of all wildly sexual and satisfying relationships; you cannot afford to do anything that causes your woman to lose respect for you.
So… don’t ask if she has had an orgasm!
Instead, learn to read her body and work it out for yourself. Also, you should note that once you get good with women it will be more a case of her losing track of how many orgasms you are giving her… as opposed to you trying to figure out if you can give her 1!
Deadly Mistake # 7: They Think They Are A Great Lover When They Are
Actually Lousy
This is probably the biggest mistake of all. If you believe that you are a good lover, when in fact you are actually a lousy lover, then you are doomed to failure in the bedroom forever.
The fact is; to become a great lover you must first realize that there are improvements to be made. If you realize this, you have a great chance of becoming great. Failure to realize it and you are going to be un-happy with your sex life forever.
Sex is a weird topic in this respect. This is because in most areas of life, when we realize that we are not as good as we would like to be, we often seek out a book or a coach, to help us improve.
Sports are a great example of this. If you play golf and can’t hit the ball straight to save your life, then you hire a golf professional to teach you the desired outcome that you want (hitting the ball straight).
However, sex is a different topic and a lot of men automatically assume that they are great at it… as if it’s just some God given right that they were born with. Others are ashamed that they are not good at it and pretend that it’s not a problem. This is equally as bad.
Maybe these guys stop pretending and start getting real when they find out that their woman cheated on them or she leaves them for another guy. (This happens all the time).
Both kinds of guys are refusing to improve themselves in what is possibly the most satisfying area of life: Knowing how to please your woman and give her mind-blowing orgasms.
I’m guessing that since you’ve read this far, you’re the kind of guy who wants to improve as a lover and become the guy who your woman brags to all her friends about (this will happen when you get really good… because women talk. On the negative side… imagine what they are telling their friends if you are not satisfying them).
So you must work out which areas you need to improve upon.
Start with your beliefs, and if you have any dis-empowering beliefs, get rid of them and replace them with beliefs that will empower you with women and set you apart from the majority of all the other guys.
For instance, if you believe that "women don’t want sex", or "good girls don’t do things like that", or "women must be treated delicately and softly all the time", or "I must win sex from a woman"… then you must destroy these beliefs and get some new ones.
Imagine if you truly believed the following: "Women love sex"
"My woman actually wants even more sex than me" "Women want orgasms and they want them often"
"A woman’s brain is her most important sexual organ"
Isn’t it true that with beliefs like that you would view women differently?
And they’d view you differently too. You’d become the 1 in 100 guys who "gets it". The guy who understands what women really want.
Once you have sorted out your beliefs out women, next get rid of any insecurity you have about your size, your body or your ability to perform. You must understand that once you learn a couple of simple techniques to give women un-believable orgasms and learn to be a man and talk dirty… all that other non-sense becomes irrelevant.
When you can give your woman an orgasm with just your voice, giving her orgasms through intercourse becomes so easy you’ll never have to worry about it again.
When you have some great beliefs and have eliminated any insecurities and anxieties about yourself, then you are ready for the really good stuff. Work on talking dirty to your woman, being a confident and masculine man and making the sex different and wildly orgasmic each and every time. And always remember to lead her through the sexual adventures she shares with you.
Oh, and never ever forget that you must treat your woman with respect and like a lady outside of the bedroom, if you want her to be your "naughty little slut" in the bedroom.
To your success with women,
Authors :KOLADE KADESHPRINCE
: DOLAPO OKERAYI
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